What is 'FORGIVENESS'?!?

What is 'FORGIVENESS'?!?

This is the definition from 'Wikipedia'....Forgiveness is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, and/or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.


How far would you go to forgive? OR how much can one forgive?

It's really pretty subjective as even I myself do not have the answer, though we're always taught to be forgiving since young especially that I'm brought up as a Christian. Of course, it is always good if one can be 100% forgiving no matter what happens.

Does forgiveness takes into consideration of the below items?
- size of matter
- cost of the mistakes
- relationships of the person we're forgiving
- physical impact
- mental impact

Does it make any difference if the person making the mistakes is your...
- parents
- siblings
- spouses
- boyfriend/girlfriend
- best friends
- friends
- colleagues
- bosses
- or totally stranger

OR does it hurt even more if they are closely related to you? I think it is always easier to forgive someone that is not related to you than those that mean so much to you....

There's always this 'COMMON' saying...

'No matter what happen, he/she is still your 'RELATIONSHIP*'...
* replace with the relationships above

e.g. No matter what happen, he/she is still your 'PARENTS'....

BUT is it TRUE that NO MATTER WHAT HAPPEN, things WON'T CHANGE?

Would you forgive IF....
...your other half is having an affair with your bestfriend?
...your parents molested/raped you?
...your parents is having an affair?
...your spouse molested/raped your kid?
...you get infected by HIV virus due to your unfaithful partner?
...your wife aborted your kid without your consent and the reason is she is not ready yet?
...you got raped by your best friend?
...your sis/bro snatch your boyfriend/girlfriend?
...you lost your love ones due to some people's selfishness?
...your other half told you that they had sex transplant after years of marriage?

And they all tell you that they are very sorry and will not repeat the same mistakes again...

Will things ever be the SAME again?!? Even if you have decided to forgive and forget or do not forget at all... Can you really forgive totally and love each other 'unconditionally' again?!? I believe things would NEVER BE THE SAME anymore...

Once a mirror is BROKEN, no matter how you mend it back... there's gonna be cracks all over... and no matter how fine the lines of the crack, things will NEVER be the SAME again. It's like a DEEP cut that will leave SCARRING forever.

Well, it is always one's CHOICE to 'FORGIVE'....


Anyway, here's some QUOTES to share and ponder upon... = ))


"Forgiveness does not always lead to a healed relationship. Some people are not capable of love, and it might be wise to let them go along with your anger. Wish them well, and let them go their way"... by Real Life Preacher


"It really doesn't matter if the person who hurt you deserves to be forgiven. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. You have things to do and you want to move on"... by Real Life Preacher


"The Reasons Why You Forgive SomeoneAre Because You Still Want Them In Your Life"... by Unknown


I like this one... "The secret of forgiving everything is to understand nothing"... by George Bernard Shaw.

HaPPily Ever After?!?

I find it very sad to see some friends divorcing, breaking up after years...even for the most loving couples. Some are just so unbelievable...

Just some thoughts running in mind...

Is there 'Happily Ever After' at all?

Love at 1st Sight...
Love U till Death Do US part...
Love 4Ever...

All Fairy Tales?!?

Falling in LOVE is always easy as 1,2,3...
Falling OUT of LOVE is also VERY easy...if you let it be...

I guess being in a marriage is not only...

Everyday saying 'I Love U'...
Every night making LOVE 2 u...
Every month give pocket $$$ 2 u.........

It's always easy to start a relationship and eventually tie a knot...

BUT it takes MORE than that to keep the relationship going andboth parties just have to work hard to make it happen. If you are not sure, please don't simply tie the knot. It's not a game to play. :p

Sometimes, if one party cannot stand the temptations to stray...things just go wrong everywhere. And once things go wrong, it wouldbe difficult to restore to the original state. Like the saying, once the glass is broken, no matter how you mend it, there's always a crack.

Nothing's perfect in this world. We can't have everything that's for sure.

I guess it's not easy to find someone who...

Loves u for who you are...
No matter how u looks...
No matter how u change in future...
No matter how your attitude is...
No matter what happens in future...

If you do find that person, feel lucky and be grateful to cherish them.

I really admire those old couples with white hair...those who lived to the quote, live together till hair become white.

Well, I just wish all the 'HAPPILY MARRIED' couples out there to have blissful marriage and hopefully to have a relationship 'white hair till old'. And to all that are getting married soon to have a long journey till the end. :)